Adoption: A Birth Mother’s Reason for Making the Choice

There is often an unfortunate misconception that women who choose adoption for their babies are weak. This couldn't be further from the truth. Letting go for her son or daughter's sake is the toughest decision any mother can make; the strength it takes is immeasurable. And that strength comes from deep within. The following story sheds light on why one birth mother made the choice to give her child a different life. The author wishes to remain anonymous due to the sensitive information in this post. ~Jessi~ My past family experiences played a role in my child's adoption long … [Read more...]

Adoption: The Boy IS Mine

As a mother to three boys, my oldest having joined our little clan through adoption and the two younger being biological, it irritates the crap pains me when people suggest either subtly or, in some cases, not so subtly, that it "might be hard" to love them all the same. After all, there's just a "natural connection" to the sons who tumbled and kicked inside my belly for eight months, right? It's true that I didn't get to experience the joys of morning sickness, swollen feet, crazy mood swings, stretch marks, that unique third trimester feeling when I was sure my crotch was just going to … [Read more...]

Adoption: A Birth Mother’s Birthday Wishes for Her Son

As you know, I adopted my oldest son. As I watch him grow, it's ever present in my mind that an incredibly strong woman made an indescribably hard decision to put his needs before her own which allowed my husband and me the privilege of being his parents. Our adoption is open, and while he knows that he was the answer to many prayers and dreams in our hearts, we haven't revealed the identity of his birth mother to him yet. His birth mother and I are anxious for him to know the special role that she plays in his precious life, but we're waiting patiently for him to be ready to fully … [Read more...]

And Then She Changed My Life

I don't talk about my adoption experience a lot on my blog, because, while my son knows he's adopted, he doesn't know all the important details yet, and he should know everything before anyone else does. Still, with Mother's Day quickly approaching, I'd like to take this opportunity to honor his birth mother. She changed my life in the most incredible way imaginable. For those of you who've read my blog for a while, you know I lost my premature son, Aiden, in 2004. It was the most devastating, soul-crushing event of my life. I'd had serious, life-threatening complications with my pregnancy … [Read more...]

A Birth Mother’s Story: Finding Hope

Adoption raises complex emotions for everyone involved. When people think about the adoption process, their minds often center on the adopted child and his or her new parents. The birth mother is also an extremely important part of the adoption equation and shouldn't be overlooked. Her emotions run deep and they're just as varied as those of the newly united family.  Last week, a birth mother, who wishes to remain anonymous, shared the bittersweet side of her adoption experience. This week, she's sharing the hopeful side of her story. ~Jessi I've spent the last five years since the … [Read more...]

Bittersweet: A Birth Mother’s Story

The following is a very personal post by a guest who wishes to remain anonymous. As an adoptive mother, I feel it's important that others hear this mother's truth. It's easy to forget that the adoptive parents and baby aren't the only ones whose lives are changed. ~Jessi I am a true believer in adoption. As my friend once said, “Adoption is neither black nor white, but there are many shades of gray.” I never regret for a moment, trying to give my child everything I didn’t have to offer at the time, by placing him with an amazing family. That doesn’t mean I never have "what if" moments. … [Read more...]